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What's in a Name?

One of the first things you think of when you discover you're going to be a parent is what you'll name your child. There are so many factors to take into consideration. Will you go traditional? Will you name your child after a relative? Or will you try to be unconventional and go with something totally unexpected? Naming your child can be fun, but if you overthink it, you might end up with a name you never wanted in the first place. To help you create the perfect name for your child, we've come up with a few tips for ensuring you don't end up regretting your little one's moniker.


Names are a tricky business. Remember that your child will be stuck with his/her name for a lifetime, and if you choose wrong, it can affect them for life. When coming up with a name, make sure it fits with his/her surname. Alliteration is your friend. The smoother a name rolls off the tongue, the better.

  1. Names that are often corrected

Remember, your child's name is one of the first things that will make up his/her identity. A name that's difficult to pronounce will have bearing in the schoolyard. If it's an unusual name, he/she can be potential targets for bullies, not to mention a lifetime of correcting people when they mispronounce his/her name.

  1. Name pairings

Keep in mind that you might not just have one child. Try to think of a name within the context of the whole family. If that name jives with the rest, all the better.

  1. Over-popularity

Got a name in mind? Thanks to the Internet, you can now check out its popularity. Sometimes, classic isn't always better, especially when there are hundreds (or even thousands) of other people with the same name.

  1. Namesakes

Do the research. If you've got a name in mind, learn more about it. What does it mean? Are there any undesirable people who have the same name? Does the name have any unfavorable historical connotation? As much as possible, refrain from naming your child after someone famous, especially if he/she is still alive. You never know what scandals that person may still undergo.

Massage and Pregnancy

You wake up in the middle of the night and you catch yourself walking like a duck. You never thought you'd waddle, but here you are cradling a sore back. Aches and pains are just some of the challenges you face while pregnant that a good massage can help relieve. Even if you're not a big fan of massages, you can turn into a spaddict with all the symptoms your pregnant body can go through, especially in the late second to third trimesters. Just like many other expecting moms, you'll be tempted to run to any therapist and beg for some kind of massage comfort. But stop in your tracks before you do so. Make sure you visit a certified pregnancy massage specialist and are informed of what this kind of massage can really do for you.

What Your Body Is Going Through

There are plenty of reasons why you need to go to a certified pregnancy specialist rather than your trusty neighborhood spa or therapist. For one, you tend to supply more blood to feed your baby and sustain your enlarging organs. The changes in blood circulation puts pregnant women at risk of blood clots. Your body is hard at work to keep your baby healthy, so anything that may hamper your system's ability to do so will obviously pose a problem.

The Difference of Pregnancy Massages 

Certified pregnancy massage experts adjust their techniques to accommodate the changes in your body. They know how to keep you comfortable throughout your massage. The therapist will either use a specially designed bed or pillows that support your back, belly, and breasts. She understands how your back, neck, and head need a good massage while going easy on your legs, where blood clots are likely to form. She should prevent deep and strong pressure massages on your legs, directing massage strokes toward the heart. The abdomen is typically avoided, or very light pressure is used if the belly is massaged. A good therapist also recognizes the emotional changes you're going through, so she should be able to help you enter a completely relaxed state during the entire massage.

Benefits of Pregnancy Massages

  1. Relieves aches and pains
  2. Increases oxygen in the blood that supports nutrient delivery to the baby and mother
  3. Releases tension and tightening in the body
  4. Helps eliminate toxins that contribute to fatigue
  5. Improves sleep
  6. Helps increase flexibility
  7. Promotes relaxation and reduces stress
  8. Helps release hormones like serotonin and endorphin
  9. Reduces swelling in hands, legs, and feet
  10. Helps reduce anxiety and depression 

When To Avoid Pregnancy Massages 

Before trying out a pregnancy massage, make sure you have consent from your OB. Some therapists welcome women in their first trimester, but they often accommodate those in their second trimester just to be safe (since miscarriages are associated with the first 12 weeks of pregnancy). Avoid this type of massage if you'd had pre-term labor in the past, are prone to clotting, are feeling nauseous, and your pregnancy is considered high risk.

Mommy's Graveyard Shift

Newborns with their tiny tummies need to feed every few hours, and that means you, Mom, are going with little sleep for the first few months.

Forcing a schedule on babies may not be the best solution, according to Discovery Fit & Health: “Babies don’t tell time with clocks; they’re governed solely by their needs to be fed, changed, and comforted.” In fact, adds the trusted website Ask Dr. Sears, sleep training through the “cry it out” method might even do long-term damage: “This can lead to children developing unhealthy attitudes toward sleep. Worse, they learn that they can’t depend on parents to meet their nighttime needs.”

The ultimate goals for nights with your newborn should be:

  • Create a sleep-inducing environment that allows sleep to overtake the baby naturally.
  • Meet your baby’s nutritional and emotional needs.
  • Get some rest yourself!

Sounds like conflicting objectives? Not really. Here are some tips to help you adjust:

  • Be realistic. Avoid preset notions of what your baby’s nighttime schedule should be (try not to be jealous/annoyed with moms who gush about how their infants sleep through the night) and you can deal with this adjustment with less frustration and expectations.
  • Follow your baby’s lead. Ask Dr. Sears says that babies “know intuitively how much nursing they need for nourishment and comfort.” Understand that your baby wakes to feed because he really needs it to thrive.
  • Rest as much as you can. Newborns nap as much as 16 to 17 hours a day, albeit not in one long stretch. Sleep when your baby sleeps. Resist the urge to clean the house or catch up on chores. Your priority should be to make up for the lost night hours and regain your energy.


  • Ask for help. Dad can handle one of the baby’s feedings and bond with him at the same time. If you breastfeed, it might be a good idea to get your child used to one feeding via bottle that Dad gives.
  • Set the night mood. To help your baby learn good sleep habits, teach them the difference between night and day. At night, keep the house or room dim, make feedings quiet, and limit talking and activity. That way, he will realize that night is for resting and day is for socialization and play.

And if all else fails, remember that this, too, shall pass! Infancy passes in a heartbeat and pretty soon you’ll have an active toddler who falls asleep on his own. Enjoy what you can for now and take heart.