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Prepping for D(elivery) Day


There is much to do in preparation for the delivery of your precious baby. Being prepared is essential. First on the agenda is deciding what kind of birth you would like to try for, “try” being the operative word. Just because you have a birth plan in mind does not mean that things will go the way you plan. (In fact, it usually doesn’t. Life has a funny way of doing that to you).


Outlined below are the different types of births women have.


1) NATURAL CHILDBIRTH: Vaginal birth with no pain medication.


Benefits: Shorter labor, healthier for mom and baby (no exposure to medications), shorter recovery time.



2) MEDICATED CHILDBIRTH: Vaginal birth with pain medication such as an epidural and spinal blocks.



3) CESAREAN SECTION: A cesarean section is when the baby is surgically removed from your womb. A C-section should only be done when there is a medical need.


4) HOME BIRTH: Giving birth in your home.

Benefits: More privacy, moms feel more in control of their birth process.


5) WATER BIRTH: Giving birth in a birthing tub filled with water.





Antenatal classes are a very important part of your path to preparedness for your birth experience. Childbirth classes give you a complete background on things to expect (starting from your labor and delivery to teaching you how to breastfeed and take care of your newborn). There are numerous approaches with differing philosophies and you need to select one that suits you and your baby’s needs.


It is advisable to begin your classes when you are around the seven-month mark.


Lamaze Technique


Lamaze courses give expectant moms the facts. They maintain neutral perspectives on medical intervention during labor and delivery. Lamaze focuses on comprehensively informing you about labor and delivery so that you can make your best-informed decision on the kind of birth you want to try for. The full course of a Lamaze class will usually add up to around twelve hours of instruction on labor, birth and postpartum care. Classes will also cover natural pain management methods and different breathing techniques during labor. Breastfeeding will also be discussed.



The Bradley Method


The main principle of the Bradley method is a natural birth with the baby's father as the birth coach. Expectant dads are trained on how to be a support system for moms-to-be. The course also covers nutrition, pain management techniques, postpartum care, breastfeeding and how to avoid cesarean birth.





The Mongan method (or HypnoBirthing) is about calm and natural childbirth through self-hypnosis techniques. Teachers try to get their students to connect to their natural mother’s instinct for a safer and easier birthing experience, the importance of pre-birth parenting and developing the consciousness of the pre-born baby.



Non-Recumbent Birthing position


You do not have to deliver your baby lying down. Non-Recumbent birthing positions, such as squatting, are encouraged as it is much easier on the mother’s body and imposes less stress on the baby.



FACT: You do not have to have a medicated birth. Epidurals are not an essential part of the birth process.


FACT:You do not have to have an episiotomy. Episiotomies take longer to heal and women are able to birth babies without major tears. You just need to prepare your body and your mind. 



Amanda’s Thoughts


MUST WATCH: The Business of Being Born is a documentary every pregnant woman should see.


TIP: Take a tour of the hospital maternity ward where you will be giving birth and ask them all the questions you have regarding their policies that may have an effect on the type of birth you want to aim for.




This article was adapted from Amanda’s Chapter 1: Pregnancy in Project Mom (book available at

Having A Second Baby

Raising a baby is an exhilarating and fulfilling experience that surpasses the pains of carrying and giving birth to one. Witnessing your child’s milestones, from the first laugh to the first steps, often merits a retake. Soon enough you and your partner will be discussing the possibility of adding to your kin. Are you ready for round two? Let this guide help you decide.



1. Spacing your kids


Experts have different opinions on the right spacing between children. It ultimately boils down to you. Are you ready for the expected sleepless nights and added responsibilities that come with a new baby? Do you prefer to focus on your firstborn’s developmental years? Do you enjoy being around tots? Reflecting on such questions first will set the pace on what to prepare and be ready for.


For closely spaced siblings, they can be playmates by the time they are in preschool. Toys, entertainment, and clothes can even be shared. While the early years are demanding, you graduate from being an active parent pretty soon as well.

Although spacing doesn’t directly contribute to sibling rivalry, some experts believe that siblings with a gap of less than three years tend to be more competitive. You may consider introducing a newcomer when your eldest is about four years old.



2. Being physically and emotionally ready


Despite what research says, know that every family, child, and woman is different. Only you, with the help of your healthcare provider, can determine the best time to conceive again. Nonetheless, knowing what researches disclose can provide information you may find useful.


With that said, it’s recommended to wait 18 to 23 months before trying to conceive again. But listen to your body. Some women take faster or longer to recover from childbirth, including a C-section. If you are wary to undergo another C-section, you might want to consider a VBAC (vaginal birth after cesarean). Ask your doctor if you’re a candidate for this procedure.


Note, too, that pregnancy within 18 months may increase the chances of low birth weight and preterm birth. On the other hand, waiting for more than five years between pregnancies escalates the risk of high blood pressure, preeclampsia, low birth weight, and preterm birth. Most also claim that it’s harder to get pregnant at around 35 years of age. Ectopic pregnancy, possibility of C-section delivery, and genetic abnormalities are more common at this age.



3. Financial preparedness


Being financially ready isn’t just about being able to pay for childbirth, but also being monetarily equipped for childcare in the years to come. Save up so that you can take time off from work after giving birth. If it’s high time for a career change to better provide for two kids, start scouting for a new job before trying to conceive. You may also need to deliberate on moving houses if a bigger one or a better community suitable for a growing family is needed.


Whether you plan to have a second baby or you are pleasantly surprised with another pregnancy, remember that this new blessing in your life will bring so much joy and love that your family can never have enough of. Realize that you will be ready for it no matter what, just trust your motherly instincts and in your ability to cope.

What's in a Name?

One of the first things you think of when you discover you're going to be a parent is what you'll name your child. There are so many factors to take into consideration. Will you go traditional? Will you name your child after a relative? Or will you try to be unconventional and go with something totally unexpected? Naming your child can be fun, but if you overthink it, you might end up with a name you never wanted in the first place. To help you create the perfect name for your child, we've come up with a few tips for ensuring you don't end up regretting your little one's moniker.


Names are a tricky business. Remember that your child will be stuck with his/her name for a lifetime, and if you choose wrong, it can affect them for life. When coming up with a name, make sure it fits with his/her surname. Alliteration is your friend. The smoother a name rolls off the tongue, the better.

  1. Names that are often corrected

Remember, your child's name is one of the first things that will make up his/her identity. A name that's difficult to pronounce will have bearing in the schoolyard. If it's an unusual name, he/she can be potential targets for bullies, not to mention a lifetime of correcting people when they mispronounce his/her name.

  1. Name pairings

Keep in mind that you might not just have one child. Try to think of a name within the context of the whole family. If that name jives with the rest, all the better.

  1. Over-popularity

Got a name in mind? Thanks to the Internet, you can now check out its popularity. Sometimes, classic isn't always better, especially when there are hundreds (or even thousands) of other people with the same name.

  1. Namesakes

Do the research. If you've got a name in mind, learn more about it. What does it mean? Are there any undesirable people who have the same name? Does the name have any unfavorable historical connotation? As much as possible, refrain from naming your child after someone famous, especially if he/she is still alive. You never know what scandals that person may still undergo.