“Is it a boy or is it a girl..?”
Next to “How many months are you on the way..?”, this is probably the second most frequently asked question soon-to-be-mothers face everyday.
For first time parents, the norm seems to be that the father usually wants to have a boy. But ask the mother what she wants her baby to be and the answer you’ll get is “Any! As long as the baby’s healthy!” And that’s exactly what my answer was every time I was asked that question.
To know or not to know.
I guess the foremost reason why parents usually want to know what gender their baby is stems from the fact that being first-time parents, they are both excited and nervous so they want to be prepared. What color should we paint our nursery? What baby accessories should we buy? Should we go with pink or blue? The list goes on and on…
But believe me, nothing compares to the excitement of not knowing what gender your baby is until that last push and your doctor screams “IT’S A BOY/GIRL!”
So yes, I personally chose not to know. On the other hand, Paolo wanted to know. But I was adamant in enforcing the “We-will-not-find-out-what-gender-the-baby-is-until-his/her-birth Rule”. And of course, he abided. J But you see, this has to be a joint effort. You can’t have one parent know and the other not know. Its just plain silly, if you ask me. The one who knows is bound to slip. So if you intend to keep the gender a mystery till the birth of your baby, again, it must be agreed upon and done by both mommy and daddy.
I must say, though, that it took quite a bit of willpower and patience to stop myself from asking the doctor what my baby’s gender was. But as I always say, patience is a virtue (and a good thing to practice, I might add) and good things come to those who wait. And the most wonderful being did come! The 9-month wait was definitely worth it. Lo and behold, I finally held the most beautiful baby boy in my arms --- my dearest Tomas. And the next pregnancy later --- and yes, I still chose not to know --- my dearest Lucas.
So my heartfelt and highly insistent recommendation is to give in to that element of surprise and live a little. Its only 9 months… Gee whiz. Worried about coming up with the perfect baby name? Well, prepare names for both a boy and a girl! And baby colors? Well, if I had a girl, I wouldn’t want an all-pink room like Barbie threw up in there anyway.
And hey, there’s always yellow. :)